Dummy's guide to getting over it
How to improve from bad events
You’re rejected.
And you feel devastated.
It makes you unable to do other things.
Then, how do you get over it?
Here’s a guide to doing it.
Reflect on it!
Ask yourself “Why am I moved so much by this?” and “Is this event really that impactful?”
As humans, we have loss aversion built-in.
Bad events are much more emotionally significant than good ones.
That’s why gratitude needs to step in to equalize the balance.
Another way to do this is by thinking there are many other opportunities and experiences.
Or how the saying goes “there are many fish in the sea”.
Talk about it!
Tell others how you feel and ask them for advice.
If you have someone to support you, the feeling of “everyone is against me” disappears.
When you’re dealing with rejections or break-ups, ask the other person why to know what mistakes you did.
Do something else!
One of the best ways to deal with a bad event is to focus on your core: your main values, activities and principles.
In face of adversity, strengthen them because they will take you out of despair!
Find other meaningful activities and connections to focus on. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t care about what happened.
What it truly means is to just accept the reality and move forward.
Take responsibillity!
It’s easy to victimize yourself, to say that you “had no fault”.
But that’s just ignoring the harsh, but liberating reality
That you were wrong.
Yes, it’s hard to accept that, but you must take responsibility
and understand that you can change your life.
You have more control over your life than destiny or random circumcances have.
Focus on small steps and know that you can’t change yourself instantly.
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